HOW TO FIGURE OUT YOUR WEDDING VISION

ONE QUESTION I GET ASKED THE MOST IS HOW I FIGURED OUT OUR “WEDDING VISION”. WHICH SOUNDS CHEESY, BUT BASICALLY MEANS, WHAT VIBE WEDDING YOU WANT.

I DON’T KNOW ABOUT YOU GUYS, BUT I CONSIDER MYSELF A PRETTY CHILL BRIDE. I’VE KNOWN TONY AND I WOULD GET ENGAGED SINCE EARLY ON, BUT NEVER REALLY STRESSED ABOUT WHEN OR WHERE IT WOULD HAPPEN.

THE SAME BASICALLY APPLIES TO OUR BIG DAY. WE’VE ALWAYS KNOWN WE WANTED TO GET MARRIED IN MEXICO, CABO TO BE EXACT. THAT BEING SAID, ONCE THE WEDDING PLANNING ADVENTURE STARTED, I WASN’T REALLY STRESSED OUT BECAUSE WE KNEW THE BASICS: WE WANTED A SUPER CHILL, SMALL WEDDING IN CABO.

IN CASE YOU MISSED IT, WE GOT ENGAGED IN CABO! WE ACTUALLY GOT SET UP ON OUR “FIRST DATE” IN CABO ALMOST 8 YEARS AGO! EVERY YEAR WE GO TO CABO IN THE SUMMER TO CELEBRATE OUR ANNIVERSARY, SO IT TOTALLY MADE SENSE FOR US AND WAS SUCH A PERFECT FIT TO PLAN OUR WEDDING THERE.

NEITHER OF US WANTED A HUGE WEDDING. SO WE KNEW A DESTINATION WEDDING WAS PERFECT. BUT THAT DOESN’T ANSWER THE MAJOR QUESTION: HOW DO YOU FIGURE OUT YOUR WEDDING STYLE, AKA YOUR “WEDDING VISION”?

WTF IS A WEDDING VISION?

LOADED QUESTION… BECAUSE THIS COULD RANGE FROM A SIMPLE IDEA TO VERY SPECIFIC OUTLINE. BUT HERE ARE A FEW QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF BEFORE PLANNING ANYTHING…

WHAT IS MY DECORATING STYLE?

EASY, BREEZY & LAID BACK
TIMELESS & SIMPLE
ECLECTIC & UNIQUE
CONTEMPORARY & CLEAN
VINTAGE & ELEGANT
RUSTIC & CHARMING

HOW TO FIGURE OUT YOUR WEDDING VISION - Erin Aschow - Ice Cream & Neon Dreams

where do you need to host your ceremony?

in a religious setting (church, synagogue, temple, mosque, etc)
indoors
outdoors

What types of ceremony spaces do you like?

outdoor estate
modern loft
beachfront
mountains
rustic lodge
lakefront
downtown skyline
garden
downtown industrial
boho desert
eclectic greenhouse
traditional estate
ballroom
vineyard
tropical

where do you envision your reception

on the beach
in a ballroom
in a greenhouse or gazebo
in a modern or industrial space
outdoors in a tent
at a vineyard
in a mountain lodge
inside a theater
somewhere historical
a tropical destination
in a backyard
a rustic barn
somewhere bohemian
at a castle
in a museum
on the waterfront
in the trees
the desert

when you think table settings

keep it simple
no idea, whatever works!
diy & whimsical
simple & tropical
farm table
colorful
black & white
glam
beachy
industrial
eclectic
natural rustic
elegant & classic
formal
rustic
colorful

what’s your bridal style?

traditional
boho
glam
sexy
simple
vintage
romantic
modern
eclectic

WHEN IT COMES TO FOOD…

TRADITIONAL SIT DOWN, PLATED DINNER
FUN & EASY BUFFET
NON TRADITIONAL FOOD TRUCKS & VENDORS

WHAT ADJECTIVES BEST DESCRIBE YOUR DREAM WEDDING?

GRAND
FORMAL
REFINED
ELEGANT
ROMANTIC
CLASSIC
GLAM
MODERN
VINTAGE
RETRO
RELAXED
COMFORTABLE
INTIMATE
CASUAL
FESTIVE
FUN
UPBEAT
RUSTIC
BEACHY
TROPICAL
DESTINATION
SEASONAL

WHERE DO YOU WANT TO HAVE THE WEDDING?

WHERE YOU LIVE
WHERE YOUR FAMILY LIVES
WHERE YOUR FIANCE’S FAMILY LIVES
SOMEWHERE FAR AWAY

HOW BIG WILL YOUR WEDDING BE?

INTIMATE (UNDER 100)
AVERAGE (100 TO 200)
LARGE (OVER 200)

WHAT SEASON ARE YOU THINKING?

FALL
WINTER
SPRING
SUMMER

WHAT’S YOUR COLOR PALETTE?

BRIGHT
BOLD
JEWEL TONES
EARTH TONES
WHITE
BLACK
PASTELS
CITRUS
BLACK
METALLICS
SEASONAL

RANK THESE PRIORITIES FROM ONE TO TEN

TIME OF YEAR
DAY OF THE WEEK
CEREMONY LOCATION
RECEPTION LOCATION
GUEST LIST
FOOD & DRINK
MUSIC
AMBIANCE & DECOR
PHOTOS
VIDEO
PAPER ELEMENTS (INVITATIONS, ETC)
WEDDING DRESS
BRIDESMAIDS DRESSES
GROOM’S SUIT
GROOMSMENS SUITS
FLOWERS

NEXT STEPS…

AFTER YOU’VE REVIEWED ALL OF THIS INFO, YOU CAN ASK YOURSELF A FEW MORE QUESTIONS, LIKE:

WHAT’S YOUR BUDGET?
WHO’S IN CHARGE OF PLANNING?
WILL YOU HIRE A WEDDING PLANNER?
WHAT’S YOUR TIMELINE?

AFTER YOU’VE FIGURED OUT SOME OF YOUR GENERAL ANSWERS, I RECOMMEND STARTING A PINTEREST BOARD. I CREATED A FEW DIFFERENT BOARDS TO HELP ME START PLANNING AND GET ORGANIZED:

BRIDE INSPO

GROOM INSPO

wedding ideas

I’ll be adding more boards as I continue planning, but felt like these were the three best places to start.

i recommend looking through the list of questions above and searching pinterest for phrases that include your “vibe”. Here are some examples of search ideas to help you start brainstorming:

beach wedding

boho dessert wedding ideas

black & white wedding

colorful destination wedding

barn wedding reception

small rustic wedding

glamorous forrest wedding

you can even create a private pinterest board if you’re not ready to share your vision. just start saving and organizing all of your inspo in one place!

if you have any specific questions, feel free to reach out to me on instagram!

and if you’re planning a wedding in cabo, i recommend reaching out to our wedding planners, del cabo weddings! stay tuned for a special Q&a i have planned with them soon!