Lonely Girls Club: Solo Sunset Date

Sweater: Show Me Your Mumu Booties: Jeffrey Campbell (similar here) Necklace: Stella & Dot Jeans: Paige Bag: Stella & Dot Sunglasses: Forever 21 Rings: Shashi 

Day One, Hour One. Lonely Girls Club in full effect.

My boyfriend left for tour last night and today is my first day of solo time. It never gets easier having to drop him off at the airport, but I’ve definitely gotten better at staying busy and keeping my brain from over stressing and anxiety.

So, wtf do I do with myself and how do I stay busy?

First of all, I work my ass off. One of the benefits of being self employed is that I can choose my workload. When my boo is home, I work a little less. I take more long lunches and days off. When he’s gone, I basically work 15 hour days. I wake up and just start working. Instead of sitting and watching sappy reruns of Grey’s Anatomy, I work while I watch TV!

I focus on my health. I work out every day. For real, I know that sounds crazy. But it actually keeps me from feeling crazy. Working out is the key to controlling my anxiety. Whether it’s going on a run, going to the gym, doing yoga or going on a walk with Doug. I just try to get out and do something. It’s a game changer. I also focus on eating well. As much as I’d like to eat a wheel of cheese in my pj’s, that will only make me feel worse. I spend a little extra time prepping food & cooking healthy meals for myself. Spending some extra time cooking and prepping healthy food makes me feel a lot better and keeps me on track.

I do stuff on my own. I used to feel really lame going places alone. I’d spend the entire month holed up in our house and literally feel psycho. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve started caring less about doing things alone and it’s been a huge game changer. I’ll take myself out on dates. I’ll get my nails done, go to a movie, grab a coffee & cookie, take Doug to the dog park, walk around the mall and window shop… a lot of the things I do with my boyfriend when he’s home. I try to have the same routine and do the same fun things to keep myself going and positive.

I set goals and milestones. I try to plan a few things throughout the time he’s gone. Whether it’s dinner with friends, a trip to visit family, a fun night out or even work meetings. Having things on my calendar gives me things to count down to, instead of looking at the longer time frame.